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How do I confess to my crush who had a traumatic past with his previous partner without losing the friendship?

08.06.2025 00:42

How do I confess to my crush who had a traumatic past with his previous partner without losing the friendship?

I never heard from her again except throwing her life away, heading into a direction that makes her unhappy.

Sadly..he dumped me, that was it. He ran to the ex, the ex dumped him completely, said that's the whole reason I cheated on you. It was my way to get rid of you because I just can't stand you anymore.

Anyways, I think you should remain friends but not lead into a intimate relationship unless you really know each other, are physically attracted to each other.

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I tried to fix what is wrong with me, I kept dressing to impress him, buying him gifts. I guess nothing was ever good enough, sadly it wasn't.

You stay calm, nice. But I really think it's not a good idea to go after someone who's been hurt, is grieving over the ex, past trauma.

I'm like why do you keep telling about your ex to me, I'm guessing you still have feelings for her?!

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I had a ex once who kept talking about his ex, said rude and hurtful things to me. I actually chased him, said I wanted to date him. He saw my looks, said yea..she's cute to my friend, yea I wanna go out with her .

This girl kept copying me, stalking me and bullying me, could never get a reaction from me. Finally she said the hell with me, decided to quit her job.

I guess she has issues with her face, doesn't like it. I mean I have imperfections as well, I'm insecure with my face but her temperament is really awful.

Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support. I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized. he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that. he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened. he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence. i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction. after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly. things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it. we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe … our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far? this has upset me so much its hard to even function.

I was so happy he said yes to me, then as well started to hang out I found out he's dwelling over his ex, keeps talking bad and good about the ex .

The reason is you're setting yourself to get hurt after they realize that this vulnerability i am displaying to you is over, I'm able to heal and accept the past, I plan to move forward, take responsibility of what I need to do with my life.

But I remained kind, modest and that pissed him off, his new girlfriend because we had to work around each other. The worse thing you can do to someone that's angry, unhappy is to show them you're not happy, that you're strong.

Why did my crush like me for only two days in a row?

I became jealous, his best friend was such a doucje bag for what he said to me. He told me my best friend is grieving over his ex still, that you should respect him while he's hurt, grieving.

He told me I like real blondes more, that I hate your mushy heart it's too sweet. He said..that I reminded him of his ex, decided to dump me, told me..a matter of a fact, I plan to go to Wisconsin, tell my ex that cheated on me to fuck off but then he says..I actually wouldn't say that to her. I'm just venting, that's it.

Angela

What does it mean when someone tells you they love you and want you in their life, but doesn't want to commit?

Love,

I guess..he went out with some blonde hair girl after that, treated her way better then me. As for me I like my blonde hair that's fake, being alternative hasn't ever changed me as kids. I know I'm being myself, so that will change as I'm older and grey.

I told the friend well I'm his girlfriend, so what does that mean?! What about my feelings, how I feel?! The best friend blew me over, my boyfriend is being reluctant and mean to me.

What is something brutally honest that needs to be said?

I think she finally realized that accepting yourself is the only way youll actually be happy by loving how you look, loving the value of life.

That's my best advice I can give you.

I'm like you come into work to earn some sorta salary, maybe make friends but keeping tabs on me, stalking me everywhere isn't a good idea because I don't even care about this nasty girl.

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